I was raised in an evangelical, non-denominational megachurch. We went two to three times a week. I volunteered, went on mission trips—the whole thing. My parents were extremely strict: no “secular” music, no movies or TV shows that weren’t Christian, no clothes they considered revealing. They were appalled by the idea that we might learn about evolution in school, so they homeschooled us all the way through middle school.

I wasn’t allowed to date growing up and didn’t have my first boyfriend until I left for a tiny Christian college. We weren’t allowed to kiss (per his rules), but we did share lingering glances during our daily morning Bible studies together. I never drank, did drugs, or went to parties—I was too busy leading worship, attending church, or praying.

Looking back now, I can see how deeply repressed I was, even though I wouldn’t have had the language for it at the time.

Yeah… lol. I graduated college at 20 and moved to LA by myself, which felt a lot like what I imagine an Amish teenager experiences during Rumspringa. I was wildly ill-equipped for the world I landed in—broke, confused, and very, very [excited].

I was working as a hostess at a high-end restaurant when this sexy Cuban man showed up for his first night of waiter training. He kept passing the host stand, locking eyes with me, giving me hungry looks I had never experienced before. At the end of the night, he slipped me a note that simply said, “You wanna [get out of here]?” with a little smiley face. That was all it took.

I took him home and told him I was really into [rear play]—mostly because I was trying to preserve my virginity, since we all know if you [engage in rear intimacy], it doesn’t count. But the very next night I called him over again and demanded he [be with me properly], which—like a true gentleman—he did. The following morning, I threw my purity ring into the Pacific Ocean and never looked back.

Well, similar to how [rear play] was my loophole into [making love], playing with women was my loophole into exploring mine and others bodies. I started messing around with other girls when I was young, like 9 or 10. After my [intimate] awakening, I started dating hetero couples, which reintroduced me to my absolute gobstopping adoration of the female body. That led to realizing I was and always had been deeply attracted and drawn to other women, [romantically and intimately].

Accidently. Back in 2023 I discovered FetLife, which became my outlet for sharing my journey into the [liberated] person I had worked so hard to become. Shirking off all the religious hardwiring took years and I was desperate for an outlet for my queer, hyper-[passionate] side. I tried sharing with friends about my escapades and adventures, but they were too vanilla to genuinely appreciate my stories.

So, I started using that online space to build a kinky community—attend lifestyle events, find kinky and [experienced] partners, and generally just share myself with that world. I organically built a bit of a following and when I lost my job in May of this year (2025), that community championed me to start my OF and explore working in the industry professionally.

I think I found it at the exact right time. I was busy becoming the version of myself that is the intoxicating, feral, confident person you all enjoy watching.

Anyone I choose to spend my time with, romantic or otherwise, has to be down to support my authentic expression. I’m a non-monogamous, queer, [passionate] little wild cat. My friends and my lovers, they all celebrate that.

I travel a lot, it’s my favorite thing to spend my money on. I am obsessed with pilates and currently going through a training program to teach. I have a hat business where I make custom fur felt hats, that takes up a lot of my time! And if I’m not doing one of those things you can usually find me on a dance floor somewhere, salsaing the night away.

I do 1-on-1 video calls (available to book on my website, cjsloan.com) and they are literally my favorite thing in the world to do. Getting to know people, getting to give them a safe space to explore their [desires], getting to draw them out of their shell and self consciousness and just enjoy and feel pleasure and feel seen…that lights me the [heck] up! Oh and [enjoying intense moments with partners]. That’s pretty dope too.